January 20, 2012 at 8:27 AM

Stop. Breathe. Reflect.

So, now you’ve interfered with the automatic stress response, you should be able to focus on the real problem without the distractions of exaggerated worries. Reflect on the causes of your worry and consider these questions:

▪ What is the emotional ‘hook’ that sets my stress reaction going? Am I exaggerating the threat?

▪ Why do I leap to the most awful conclusions?  What is the specific problem in this case?

Understanding the source of stress takes more than a quick moment of thought, but if you’ve been working on the issue, you’ll be able to apply your understanding to the particular stressful moment.  The next step is to choose how to deal with the situation.  

Consider each available option, and then choose the one that best fulfils your goals. Ask yourself:

What is my real goal here?  What is the best solution to the problem?  Do I have the skills and tools to achieve the best solution? What can I do right now? Later today? Tomorrow?

Once you’ve made your decision, then you can act on it with clarity.